10 Essential Questions for Women Considering Surrogacy

Becoming a surrogate is a serious decision that requires a great deal of thought and reflection. Before committing to the process, it is essential to ask yourself a series of important questions to determine if surrogacy is the right path for you.

This article covers key considerations such as emotional and mental readiness, motivations for surrogacy, availability to commit to a year-long process, and the support of loved ones. It also touches on important aspects such as physical health, financial stability, legal ramifications, and the emotional weight of giving up the child after birth. Ultimately, the decision to become a surrogate is a personal one that should be made after careful consideration of all factors. If you are unsure, it may be helpful to speak with a surrogacy professional or therapist to work through any doubts or reservations.

Here are 10 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Becoming a Surrogate:

1. What is the reason you are interested in becoming a surrogate? 

It's important to note that while compensation is a factor, most surrogates indicate that they have had easy pregnancies and want to share the gift of life with others. However, not every woman who had an easy pregnancy will consider surrogacy, and it's important to consider all factors before making a decision.

2. Are you available to commit to a process of over a year? 

Being a surrogate is a very demanding process that can take over a year, including filling in applications, appointments with professionals, regular doctor visits, and maintaining your daily routine while pregnant. It's important to consider if you and your family members are able to commit to this process before making a decision.

3. Are you done with building your own family? 

The surrogacy journey is complex and might have medical complications, it's recommended to make sure you are done with growing your family before considering becoming a surrogate.

4. Do you have a support system to help you go through this journey?

The surrogacy process can be long and challenging, and it's important to have a strong support system in place to help you through it. It's important that you are not alone.

5. Are you emotionally and mentally prepared for the surrogacy process? 

Surrogacy involves carrying a child for someone else, which can be emotionally and mentally taxing. It's important to make sure you are prepared for the emotional journey ahead.

6. Are you physically fit and healthy? 

Surrogacy requires a significant physical commitment, including regular medical appointments and a healthy pregnancy. It's important to make sure your body is up for the task.

7. Are you financially stable?

Surrogacy can offer generous compensation, but if you receive government aid, you may be disqualified as the agency wants to ensure that the child will be raised in a safe and proper environment and that you will not have any financial concerns during the process. If you are only interested in surrogacy for the compensation, it may not be a sufficient reason to pursue it.

8. Which type of intended parents are you willing to help and what type of relationship would you like to have with them after giving birth to their child? 

It's important to consider what type of intended parents you are comfortable working with, such as same-sex couples, heterosexual couples, local or international couples, and if you would like to have an ongoing relationship with them after the birth of the child.

9. What is important for you while choosing a surrogacy agency to work with?

It's important to consider factors such as the agency's reputation, level of support and communication, legal and medical expertise, and matching process when choosing a surrogacy agency to work with.

10. Do you understand the risks involved?

As with any pregnancy, surrogacy carries certain risks and it is important to understand and be comfortable with them before moving forward.

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Ultimately, the decision to become a surrogate is a personal one that should be made after careful consideration of all of the factors involved. If you are unsure about whether surrogacy is right for you, it may be helpful to speak with a surrogacy professional or a therapist who can help you work through your thoughts and feelings.